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What Stage of Heart Healing Are You In?
A Heart Check Assessment by AWE-Inspiring You
Instructions:
Grab a notepad and pen. Answer honestly. Choose the option that most reflects how you’ve felt over the past 2–4 weeks.
1. When you think about the person who hurt you, you:
A. Feel a wave of sadness or grief
B. Replay conversations and overanalyze
C. Feel detached or emotionally shut down
D. Feel reflective but not overwhelmed
2. Your current emotional state feels:
A. Raw and heavy
B. Up and down depending on triggers
C. Controlled but distant
D. Increasingly peaceful
3. Your relationship with God in this season feels:
A. I cry out constantly for comfort
B. I wrestle with Him but still seek Him
C. I keep this pain mostly to myself
D. I sense Him restoring me daily
4. When it comes to trusting someone again:
A. I can’t imagine it right now
B. I want to, but fear being hurt
C. I prefer to rely on myself
D. I’m open, just more discerning
5. When something reminds you of them:
A. It ruins my mood
B. I spiral into thoughts
C. I suppress the feeling
D. I acknowledge it and move on
6. Your biggest struggle right now:
A. Letting go
B. Overthinking
C. Vulnerability
D. Rebuilding confidence
7. How do you handle conflict currently?
A. I avoid it because I feel fragile
B. I become reactive or emotional
C. I emotionally withdraw
D. I communicate more calmly than before
8. When someone shows interest in you:
A. It feels overwhelming
B. I look for signs they’ll leave
C. I keep emotional distance
D. I take it slow but stay open
9. Your inner dialogue sounds like:
A. “Why wasn’t I enough?”
B. “What did I do wrong?”
C. “I don’t need anyone.”
D. “I learned from this.”
10. Your attachment tendencies right now:
A. Clingy or fearful of losing connection
B. Anxious and reassurance-seeking
C. Guarded and self-protective
D. Grounded and more secure
WHAT STAGE OF HEART HEALING ARE YOU IN?
11. Forgiveness feels:
A. Impossible right now
B. Complicated
C. Irrelevant — I just moved on
D. Like a process I’m working through
12. When you pray about your heartbreak:
A. I mostly cry
B. I ask “why”
C. I struggle to open up fully
D. I feel surrender growing
✨ Scoring
Count the letter you chose most often.
💔 Mostly A’s — Freshly Broken
Your heart is still very tender. You are grieving deeply, and the wound feels present and active.
Focus: Rest, safety, and God’s nearness. You do not need to rush healing.
Bookstore Recommendation: Soon It Will Be Past Tense by Lashay White
🩹 Mostly B’s — Processing & Triggered
You are in the mental and emotional processing phase. Triggers, overthinking, and emotional swings are common here.
Focus: Regulating thoughts and surrendering control to God.
Bookstore Recommendation: Soon It Will Be Past Tense by Lashay White
🧱 Mostly C’s — Guarded & Self-Protective
You’ve adapted by building walls. Independence feels safer than vulnerability.
Focus: Softening safely and letting God heal the fear beneath the armor.
Bookstore Recommendation: Journey to Purpose by Lashay White
🌿 Mostly D’s — Rebuilding & Restored
You are integrating lessons, rebuilding confidence, and becoming more secure.
Focus: Strengthen identity in Christ and trust again from wisdom, not wounds.
Bookstore Recommendation: Journey to Purpose by Lashay White
💛 Important Reminder
Healing is not linear.
You may see pieces of yourself in more than one stage. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s security in Christ. True security is knowing you are already chosen by Jesus, not chasing or being chased for validation.